Transformation vs. Letting Be

There is a polarity of transformation and letting be, and as with any other polarity, there is a fluidity in which one is expressed more visibly while they are also both present at the same time.

On the one hand, there are many transformative practices that help us deepen and clarify the nature of our existence. Tibetan mind-training is one example, focusing on how we can turn around habitual emotional/cognitive patterns in a way that opens for genuine compassion, humility and happiness.

On the other hand, existence is as it is, and perfect as it is. Any attempt to change our experiences or to “do” anything with them can be seen as “extra” and from a sense of separation.

Both perspectives seem neccesary. From the absolute, everything is perfect as is. From the relative, there is room for improvement.

If awareness operates in a dualistic way, we will tend to perceive the two as distinct and separate, as an either/or situation. We leave one out while focusing on the other – and the one left out will eventually emerge as a reminder of the larger polarity.

In Voice Dialogue and the Big Mind process, the voices that we typically want/try to transform often express resentment about our attitude towards them. They have a function as they are, and we may not always appreciate that fully. Relating to them more skillfully includes appreciating them as they are and for what they do for us, while also allowing them the space and conditions for change, healing and maturation.

From a transdual view, there is distinction and no separation. This allows for appreciating everything as it is, while also allowing the space and conditions for deepening, clarification and maturation.

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