It seems that the housemate situation is over and resolved in some ways.
It has been a lesson in seeing in myself what I see in others, in allowing my heart to be open enough to have compassion with everyone involved, and in not needing to defend anything. I can be clear about our boundaries, and yet not need to defend any of my actions. I know they are all from limited insight, clarity and compassion. There is always room for improvement. Always further to go. Anything that can be said about these actions are true, one way or another. There is nothing to defend. This too comes out of an open heart – being with what is and acknowledging the truth in the view of others. And seeing that while there is truth in it, it is also a limited truth as any other. It is one particular abstraction added to what is, as anything else.