In any stressful experience, there is a gift – there are nutrients there, ready to nurture our life if we are available to them.
In my experience, if I just use a regular mindfulness practice – coming to my breath or the movements of the body when I notice getting caught up in a hangup – it works in the short term, giving me some relief and reminding me of who I would be without the story. But it also seems to miss something in the longer run. Until the nutrients are harvested, until the gift is received, it seems to just come up again – over and over. Something wants to be seen, and until it is – it will return.
I am sure there are innumerable very effective ways of harvesting these nutrients. Some that work for me are…
- The Big Mind process
Exploring in detail the dynamic behind what is happening, including the polarities (complementary/opposite) voices at a personal level and the transcendent voices.
- Byron Katie’s inquiries
Exploring in detail what the belief is behind the stress, what happens when I believe that thought, who I would be without it, and integrating projections and loosening up the belief through exploring the various turnarounds.
- Process Work
Allowing the process behind the symptom (in this case stress) to unfold, revealing its message and gift, and absorbing this.
- Shikantaza (sitting practice)
Allowing it all to unfold within awareness, living its own life as it does anyway. Allowing resistance to even resistance to fall away. Allowing even the fueling of thoughts to unfold within space as everything else.
- Can I be with what I am experiencing? (daily life)
Again, allowing it all to unfold within awareness, living its own life.