Inquiry: It should be resolved. (Before it is over.)

It should be resolved. (Before it is over.)

  1. True?
    Yes. Feels true.
  2. Sure?
    No. It is only my mind & feelings telling me it is true. (My stories, and the way my body reacts when it doesn’t happen.)
  3. What happens when I believe that thought?
    • I see how true it seems. It should be resolved, before it is over. My relationships with those close to me should feel resolved. My life should feel resolved, completed, before it is over. Anybody’s life should be resolved for them before it is over.
    • When did I first have that thought? Not sure. Probably early on, from those around me. (There is a cultural component too.)
    • What am I not able to appreciate with that belief? What is. What ends without a feeling of complete resolution. I am not able to appreciate its other aspects, and also not able to appreciate the sense of lack of resolution itself.
    • How is this thought serving me? I get to see myself as responsible. Mature. Someone who want to resolve my relationships and my life before they are all over. (Which seems comical when I look at it.)
  4. Who would I be without it?
    • Able to appreciate my relationships and life, whether resolved or not. In the midst of it not feeling resolved.
    • Receptive to what is. Appreciation. Grateful. A more open heart towards myself and others.
    • Receptive to the gifts of not having certain things resolved.
  5. Turnarounds.
    • It shouldn’t be resolved. It isn’t, in my mind. It ended before being completely resolved. And that is a shared human experience. Things end before they seem resolved. Also, it helps me notice my beliefs around it, and look into them. And it humbles me. Things finish in my life, before they are completely resolved. I am not able to make it all the way I would like.
    • I should be resolved. I can find resolution around this, for myself. I can see that it is OK to not have all resolved, according to my stories around it. I can see that a sense of resolution or lack of resolution all comes from my own stories. And I see that it is all our shared human experience. For all of us, things end in spite of appearing not resolved to us. In that way, I resolve my own relationship to things not appearing resolved. I can find peace with it, even as I am free to work towards having it feel more resolved.
    • I shouldn’t be resolved. There is always more to unfold, to explore, to experience, to manifest. Nothing is ever final, complete or resolved in the world of form. The world of form, in itself, is always shifting, always incomplete and unresolved according to our ideas about it.
    • My thinking should be resolved. By finding what is more true for me than the initial belief.
    • My thinking shouldn’t be resolved. It gives me more to work with. More to explore. More to experience.
    • Resolution should be me. I can find myself as resolution. I can shift into it. Discover how it is to be resolution, to see the world from that view. (When I shift into it, I find that it is similar to non-seeking mind.)
    • Resolution shouldn’t be me. If I disown it, then it is not me and shouldn’t be me. If I find a fluidity around it, able to shift in and out of it fluidly, then it isn’t me either. I can be it, and then shift out of it.

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