Not going far enough

Initial draft… 

This seems like a simple thing… If we go far enough, we come out on the other side.

And this seems true for radical relativism, realizing all as perfect as is, loving what is, seeing all as pure innocence, seeing how all human actions come from fear, then love, noticing the inherent neutrality of all situations, and much more.

If we go far enough in any of these, see it clearly enough, feel it in our bodies, love it as it is, as what is already more true for us, we come out on the other side. We are free from it, in terms of our actions.

We see any story as just a story, the inherent neutrality of any situation, all as pure innocence, so we are free to use stories as practical tools in daily life. We are free to act in any way that seems appropriate to the situation.

We are free to have an open heart, receptive view, a sense of nurturing fullness, and act from compassion and care, meeting people exactly where they are.

And meeting people where they are, sometimes means tough love. It sometimes means a clear no to what they are doing, in our words and actions, if it harms others.

Quite the contrary from hindering action, as some seem to think, it frees up action. It frees up our range of possibilities, the repertoire of stories we use as practical tools only to guide actions in the world.

So why beat people over the head when they explore radical relativism and the other things mentioned above? Why make it “wrong”, as for instance some in the integral world like to do? At best, it stops people where they are, it prevents people in going far enough in exploring it, which means they don’t come out on the other side.

Why not instead encourage it? Encourage going all the way, exploring it all the way through to the freedom on the other side. The freedom from identification with stories, and instead finding them as tools of practical value only.

An example is the spiral dynamic red and amber immigrants to Western Europe, which has been a hot issue for a while now. (And is becoming a problem in my own country.)

If we come from radical relativism, from seeing the pure innocence in all our actions, the inherent neutrality of the situation, the fear and then love that is behind all of our actions, we are free to approach this in a very practical way, with a wide range of options of actions, and from clarity and kindness. (And less from fixed views and identities, a closed heart, and reactive emotions.

We are free to meet people where they are, in our words and actions. We are free to be clear about what is not acceptable in these countries, and use whatever practical means seem appropriate in the situation.

We come from a compassion with the immigrants and the folks who have lived there for a while, and we may see that these immigrants are guests, they came as guests on their own volition, so they have to give something back. They have to follow the laws and social norms of the countries they live in. They have to raise their children to fit in and support the society they are born into.

We can make this easier for them in practical ways, support the ones who want to do this (and they are many), make it clear that diverging too far from this is not acceptable and has consequences, and use approaches that speaks their language, that they are more likely to agree with (although they won’t always), and that are less likely to cause a backlash.

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