Inquiry: Discomfort is not OK

Discomfort is not OK.

  1. True?
    Yes. It feels that way sometimes. I can find others who agree. I act as if it is true, sometimes.
  2. Sure?
    No. Not at all. Just an opinion.
  3. What happens when I believe that thought?
    • I try to avoid discomfort. I avoid situations that I suspect can trigger discomfort in me. And I try to avoid the experience of discomfort when it is there.
    • I make discomfort into something substantial and a drama. There is a sense of separation.
    • My mind revolves around discomfort: The possibility of it. Judging the likelihood of discomfort in different situations. Strategizing to avoid situations that may trigger discomfort.
    • I experience struggle. Drama. Nothing is simple or easy. I feel at odds with life.
    • When there is discomfort, I feel like a victim. I am unfairly treated by life.
    • When did I first have that thought? Probably very early in childhood, and most likely when I saw adults around me act as if discomfort is not OK. I took it on as a belief since that seemed to be the thing to do.
  4. Who am I without it?
    • OK with discomfort. Discomfort is just another experience. Just another expression of life. Another aspect of human life.
    • A sense of partnership with life. Curiosity. Attention is freed up to go anywhere it is drawn.
  5. Turnarounds.
    • Discomfort is OK.
      • Yes. There is nothing inherently wrong with discomfort. It is just an experience.
      • When I am OK with discomfort, discomfort is OK for me.
      • When there is no resistance to experience, the experience is OK whatever it is.
    • Discomfort is wonderful.
      • Yes. It is a guide that tells me whether I am caught up in resisting experience or allow it.
      • When any experience is allowed, including discomfort, there is a quiet joy there.
    • I am not OK.
      • Right. If I tell myself that discomfort is not OK, I am not OK – because it is always around the corner if it is not right here.
      • Whenever I take a story as true, I am not OK because my shoulds are at odds with life as it shows up, or can show up. I create my own discomfort that way.

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