In exploring beliefs, I come to see that whenever I take a story as true, I act as if it is true. Pretty obvious, but it is different to see if over and over, and allowing it to sink in.
And this is also a simple way of exploring regrets.
I go back to a situation I experience regret over. Look at the beliefs I had then. And ask myself, did I have a choice? Given those beliefs, could I have acted differently?
It is a way to help us see the innocence in it, find some compassion for ourselves, and allowing regrets to fall away. (And if I notice an impulse to justify or defend my actions, then that is something to inquire into as well.)
This pointer comes from Byron Katie’s Who Would You Be Without Your Story?
- go back to the situation, look at the beliefs I had
- with those beliefs, could I have acted differently?
- notice, is all innocent
- from Byron Katie, Who Would You Be Without Your Story?