As Byron Katie says, nobody can insult me, that is my job.

From a conventional view, I see that I interpret something a certain way, and then create a sense of being insulted. The interpretation may look sound or not, but it is still my interpretation that creates my own reaction.

Looking a little closer, I find that it is all happening within my own world of images. The me that is insulted (or not), the other person, what they say, how it is interpreted, all of that is happening within my own world of images.

As a belief, this is not very helpful. It may even become another should clashing with my stories of what is. (I should be able to receive or see it differently, but can’t.)

But as a question and pointer for inquiry, it may be very helpful. Do I insult myself? In what way is it true? Can I notice it after the fact? Can I notice it as it is happening? Is this true for more than insults? (For instance attraction, aversion, joy, sadness, satisfaction, sense of lack – is it all something I create for myself?)



As Byron Katie says nobody can insult me, that is my job.

This is another insight that may sometimes be far from the conventional view, yet is very obvious when recognized.

I make myself insulted through my own stories.

And the same goes for anything else. Aversion, attraction, joy, satisfaction, sadness, a sense of something lacking and so on.

Closer to a conventional view, I may say that I insult myself, I make myself attracted or repulsed by something, I trigger joy in myself, I create a sense of something lacking. Something happens in the world, I interpret it a certain way, so create a certain experience for myself that way and then act accordingly. It all depends on how I receive it.

And a little closer to what is really going on, I can say that it is all happening within my own world of images. The me that is insulted, the other person, the words or actions triggering it, how it is interpreted and received, the doer of it all, and the observer all happens within my own world of images. I cannot find it any other place. (If it seems that it happens outside my stories, that too is a story.)

As always, there is a lot more to this…

It is a question and starting point for inquiry, something to explore for ourselves. As a belief, it is less than helpful. (And easily becomes another should opposed to what is.)  As a question, it can be an invaluable and very helpful pointer.

There is often a process of clarifying, getting used to, and reorganize within this insight. First, we may recognize it through an active investigation after it happens. After a while, it sinks in and is recognized more easily as it happens. It may shift from view (seen) to heart (kindness to ourselves and others) to belly (felt-sense), and from being recognized after it happens to as it happens.

The two ways of talking about it illustrates a difference between conventional psychology and spirituality. In psychology, we may question stories about anything, including whatever identities this me has, but the me itself is usually not questioned, and the same goes for the separate I. In spirituality, no stories are off limits, and the very stories left out by psychology are those we may especially inquiry into. What is this me? What is this separate I, showing up as a doer, observer and so on? How do they show up in the sense fields? Are they content of experience, as any other content of experience? Is that what I really am?

Using a conventional psychological view, we may find a great deal of release from stress and less helpful interpretations, but there is still a sense of having to defend (the story of) a me and separate I. It will still be a little precarious. Going further, inquiring into the me and I gestalts themselves, there is the possibility for the basic misidentification to release.


Initial outline….

  • nobody can insult me, that is my job
    • I make myself insulted through my own stories
      • how I receive, interpret
      • all happening within own world of images
    • same with anything else
      • aversion, attraction, indifference etc.
    • a question, pointer for investigation
      • first see, recognize, over and over in different situations, often after it happened
      • then more of a felt-sense, more real, a shift in immediate experience as it happens
    • can easily co-exist with a conventional view, and makes appropriate actions in the world more available

The two ways of talking about it also shows the difference in degree between psychology and spirituality. The psychological way of

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