Living in integrity

There are many answers to the question what is it all about?

And here is one simple answer: it is about living in integrity.

What does it mean to live in integrity?

For me, it means to live according to relative and absolute truth. The ordinary truths on my ordinary human life, and also the truth of what I am and everything is.

To find the relative truths, I can ask myself, what is the most sane, mature, wise and kind thing to do in this situation? What am I called, with my whole being, to do, here and now?

When I ask that question with sincerity, wait for an answer, and act on it, there is a sense of alignment and ease. The answer seems obvious. And I can be equally receptive to feedback and take that into account for my next action.

And yet, sometimes, I am caught up in beliefs that either prevents me from acting that way, or compels me to act differently. There will be a sense of tension, confusion, lack of clarity. Even stress, discomfort, unease, sense of separation, sense of superiority or inferiority, that I am right and someone else is wrong, and more.

Life gives wonderful feedback. As soon as I notice any of the many symptoms of being out of integrity, I can look for the beliefs behind it, and inquire into them, one at a time. Can I be certain it is true? What happens when I take it as true? Who would I be without it? What are the truths in its reversals? How would it be to live from one or more of these reversals?

In the situation, I may be called, with my whole being, to act in a certain way. It can be clouded up by beliefs compelling me to not act on it, or act differently. Those beliefs come with the typical symptoms of being caught up in beliefs. I can notice and use it as a pointer to the belief itself, inquire into it, and find what is more true for me. (And what is really true for me is not another belief.)

If that is the relative truth, what is the absolute truth?

It is to remember what I really am and everything is. That which everything happens within and as. That which cannot be touched by any story, because it is far simpler than any story, far more obvious than any story, and also because it is inclusive of any story and all of its possible reversals.

It is to remember than any story is just a question. A temporary guide for attention and action, helpful in some situations and less so in other. A tool with temporary, limited and practical use only.

And that goes even for my core stories of a me, a human self with a particular set of identities. And of I, of a doer and observer.

Exploring these two ways of being in integrity, it becomes clear how closely related they are to each other. More than that, they are two ways of talking about the same thing.

And it comes back to something very simple, practical and heartfelt.

Do I notice any of the symptoms of being caught up in a belief? Of taking a story as true?

Can I find stress, unease, tension, sense of precariousness, sense of separation, sense of having to protect a viewpoint or identity, compulsiveness?

When others see me as acting in ways that are not sane, mature, wise and kind, can I find the truth in it?

When I notice this feedback, can I find a belief behind how I act? What do I find when I inquire into it, with sincerity, heart, kindness, receptivity?

What is that story, in its simplest form? Is it true? Can I know it is true? What happens when I take it as true? Who would I be without it? What are the truths in its reversals? How would it be to live from the most powerful of those reversals, in daily life?

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outline….

  • living in integrity
    • w. relative + absolute truths
    • relative truths: what seems most sane, mature, wise, kind in the situation, what we are called (with our whole being) to do
      • + notice when beliefs prevent us from acting in those ways, and inquire into
      • + notice when act on beliefs, and inquire into
      • notice the symptoms of being caught up in beliefs, and being out of integrity
      • life gives wonderful feedback: the ease of integrity + the stress of being out of integrity
    • absolute truth: remember what we are, headless experiments, the work, inquiry into sense fields, etc.

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Sometimes, I will be caught up in beliefs that either prevents me from acting that way, or compels me to act differently.

And then I can notice the symptoms of being caught up in beliefs, and being out of integrity: Stress, unease, discomfort, tension, sense of separation, sense of superiority or inferiority, sense that I am right and someone else is wrong, and more.

Life gives wonderful feedback. As soon as I notice any of the many symptoms of being out of integrity, I can look for the beliefs behind it, and inquire into them, one at a time. Can I be certain it is true? What happens when I take it as true? Who would I be without it? What are the truths in its reversals? How would it be to live from one or more of these reversals?

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