Why does The Work work?

Why does The Work work?

It changes how I relate to thoughts. From taking them as true, or seeing them as a problem, they become an invaluable guide. It also helps recognize thought as content of experience.

The process reorganizes my thoughts. I find a fuller and richer set of stories, allowing more of a 360 degree view on the topic.

The process helps me allow emotions and experience as they are, with kindness, and also find genuine appreciation for my experience and emotions.

The process helps me find meaning in difficult situations, and even genuine appreciation for them. What was initially a problem for me, is now recognized as support.

When I take time to allow insights to sink in, it reorganizes how I experience myself and the world.

When I live from the most juicy turnarounds, it changes how I act in the world. I live from what is more true for me than the initial belief.

And in general, it helps me mature. I find a more fluid relationship with stories, appreciating the grain of truth and usefulness of each. I don’t need to protect or defend any one viewpoint.

It also helps me heal. From creating stress for myself by holding onto a story as true, I recognize it as a story, and I recognize the validity of other stories on the same topic.

This is of course a very simplified and idealized version. In reality, it is a more messy process. Sometimes when I do inquiry, I seem to repeat what I already know. Other times, I choose to wait with doing an inquiry. Often, there are small shifts and openings, slight changes in perspectives and how I relate to the situation. Quite often, in the hours or days after an inquiry, I am surprised by noticing shifts that seem to have sneaked up on me effortlessly. And a few times, there has been large and unexpected shifts while doing the inquiry, dramatically changing how I experience myself and the world. Overall, it is a very interesting and enjoyable process, looking at one thought at a time. Even familiar thoughts becomes new in inquiry.



  • why does The Work work?
    • general effects
      • change how relate to thoughts, emotions
        • allow, recognize thoughts as thoughts, allow emotions as are
      • thoughts – reorganize, find meaning
      • emotions – allow, w. kindness
      • behavior – live from turnarounds
      • maturing – less narrow
    • steps
      • ….


  • why does The Work work?
    • steps
      • true?
        • gauge our initial response, how it feels, habitual way of relating to it
      • sure it is true?
        • open the door to something else
        • invitation to take a closer look, find what is more honest for us than the initial story (if anything)
      • what happens when take it as true?
        • explore the consequences, with specific examples
      • who would I be without it?
        • get a sense of, feel, visualize, specific examples
        • visualize what can be – open for a commitment, a plan
      • turnarounds
        • get to see the situation from more angles, 360 degrees
        • unstick from initial position/viewpoint
        • richer, fuller set of stories
          • more honest for us (relief)
          • more options in how to relate to it
    • general
      • richer story, unstick from the narrow/stressful story, unstick from one viewpoint
      • take time to feel it, allow reorganization
      • when with someone else, witness, feel we/stories are seen
      • acceptance of thoughts/feelings, w. kindness
      • inquiry -> easier to allow experience as is, with kindness (emotions etc.)
      • distance to the story, noticed as object in experience
      • find peace with whatever the story is about (myself, others, situation, life) – more clarity, kindness
      • live from a juicy turnaround, make changes so live more fulfilling life + make up for/make good use of what happened
      • invites healing and maturing
        • stress from attachment to narrow set of stories/viewpoints (stress, distress, experience of wounds)
        • reduced stress + healing and maturing when wider set of stories and viewpoints – more generous, honest, flexible
      • stories
        • investigate stories at different levels of abstraction (general/universal + narrow/unique versions of the same)
        • underlying assumptions
        • supporting stories

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