When I find myself complaining in daily life, I see it as my Judge-Your-Neighbor worksheet.
Most of the time, I notice it as it happens, make a note of it, and later explore it either informally or more formally through The Work.
As I notice complaining happening, or just the impulse to complain, I chose to either switch out of complaining mode, or I chose to allow it to unfold further so I get to see more of what is left to explore and digest.
Doing this has another side-benefit. It allows me to recognize the complaints of others as their Judge-Your-Neighbor worksheet, and it reminds me of the clarity and innocence that is there waiting for them (and me!) on the other side of the confusion.
- jyn worksheets in daily life
- he/she/life should/shouldn’t, is/isn’t etc. (complaints)
- notice it is happening, take to inquiry
- or even do it deliberately, with people you know understand
- can be very helpful
It may happen on its own, especially with people I feel comfortable complaining to….! And I may also notice it happening, and chose to either switch out of complaining mode, or continue so I get to see more of what is left to explore and digest.