If couldn’t fail and no unpleasant consequences, what would I do?

When I feel confused about a choice or direction, I can ask myself a simple questions:

If I knew I couldn’t fail and there were no unpleasant consequences, what would I do?

This helps me see two things.

First, what I really want.

And second, that I confuse myself by getting caught up in fear. I am afraid it is not possible, I won’t be able to do it, or that it would involve unpleasant consequences, and by recoiling from those fears without fully bringing them into awareness, I experience confusion. I may even make myself so confused I tell myself I don’t know what I want.

The simple question above helps me go from telling myself I am confused about what to do, to know what I want. I can then chose to do it or not. If I chose to do it, I can do it despite the fear, or work on the fear and then do it, and in any case find a way to do it that feels more comfortable to me,. If I chose to not do it, I can at least be more honest with myself about why.

Source: Innumerable. This seems to be a very common pointer for inquiry, which is not surprising considering its effectiveness in some situations.

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no limitations

– often make myself confused b/c I don’t want the unpleasant consequences, or think it can’t happen (afraid of being disappointed)
– if no fears, no limitations, no unpleasant consequences, what do I wish for? (innocent)

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If I feel confused about a choice or direction, I am sometimes clear on what feels right for me, but I am unclear on what to do about it.

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