Inquiry: He should use a wider perspective

He should use a wider perspective. (A thought that sometimes comes up when I listen to/talk with some spiritual teachers,  therapists and others. I’ll keep one person in particular in mind, since that is more alive for me now. Here is the fuller sentence, which I’ll also keep in mind: he/she should be more inclusive in terms of tools, perspectives and levels.)

  1. True?
    It feels true, sometimes.
  2. Sure?
    No. It’s just an opinion.
  3. What happens when I believe that thought?
    • I feel it is true. I go into stories telling me it is true.
    • Sometimes, I find I appreciate what he offers, but get distracted by thoughts and images of what he leaves out. Other times, any appreciation is drowned out by the images of what is missing.
    • I compare with people I feel are more inclusive, or at least include what I see as most important. (Adyashanti, Byron Katie, Genpo Roshi, Douglas Harding.)
    • With this person, I tell myself he is good at what he is doing, but also leaves out Big Mind/Big Heart (Buddha Mind). He seems to operate out of basic and unquestioned assumptions, which makes me feel there is a “should” there. There is a sense of pushing in a certain direction. The landscape is not as open as it could be.
    • I find myself focusing on what’s wrong, which deadens the interaction.
    • What am I afraid would happen if I didn’t have that belief? I am afraid I wouldn’t notice what is missing, or wouldn’t care about being more inclusive myself. What is more likely to happen? That I still notice and include for myself. I am naturally drawn to being more inclusive, it seems. There is a joy in it for me.
  4. Who would I be without it?
    • Notice I appreciate what they offer. Curious about the piece they offer. Interested in it. Learning.
    • Also curious about how it fits into a larger picture. How it fits in with other tools, perspectives and levels.
  5. Turnarounds.
    • He should not use a wider perspective.
      • >> No. He is speaking from what he knows and is passionate about. I don’t want him to speak from something that is not alive for him, or he doesn’t have experience with, or is not passionate about. That would deaden the interaction for both of us.
      • >> We all have a piece of the puzzle, so we need each other. That’s the beauty of it. We need each other to fill in the larger picture. We need each other so we can recognize that our own take on it is limited. We need each other to expand our own experience of the world.
      • >> It helps me see this belief in me, and find what is more true for me. It helps me expand my perspective on this topic.
    • I should use a wider perspective.
      • Yes. The advice is for myself. I find joy and passion in a wider perspective, one that is more inclusive in terms of tools, perspective and levels. He reminds me of my own passion.
    • I should not use a wider perspective.
      • That’s also true. I am using what’s alive for me here and now. That’s sufficient here and now, and I also move in the direction of expanding it.

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– Each one has a piece of the puzzle, so we need each other. That’s the beauty of it.

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