In any relationship – with friends, family, co-workers, lovers – there is a desire for security and freedom.
And both comes from clear and honest communication, balancing passion for self with compassion for others*.
There is security because I trust myself and the other to speak freely. I trust each of us to bring up anything related to our relationship, for both of us to be clear about our needs and desires, and for our capacity to negotiate ways for each of us to fulfill our needs and desires. Giving ourself and the other the freedom to speak freely, there is trust.
And there is freedom because of that trust. When there is trust, I allow myself and the other freedom to be who we are, and to communicate honestly, to express our desires, and find ways to pursue those desires in ways that support both of us.
Freedom feeds trust, and trust feeds freedom. If there is a commitment to truth and love – which are really two names for the same – there is over time a deepening of trust and freedom.
And as we continue to explore this, we find a natural passion for the truth because we know the trust and freedom that comes with it.
Relationships can be amazingly alive, exiting, nurturing, and liberating when these two are present. And they may unfold in quite unconventional ways, and yet in ways that feel deeply right. I am experiencing this in two of my most intimate relationships right now, and am deeply grateful for it.
Inspiration: Don’t Be Nice, Be Real: Balancing Passion for Self with Compassion for Others* and also working with Kelly Bryson over the phone.
…………..
– in any relationship, desire for security and freedom
— security, through clear and honest communication, caring
— freedom, allowing oneself and the other freedom (w/in clear communication)
………
In any relationship – with friends, family, co-workers, lovers – there is a desire for security and freedom.
And both comes through clear and honest communication.
Security through clear and honest communication, and the caring that naturally is there when there is honest and direct communication.
And freedom. Allowing oneself and the other freedom, within clear communication.
Relationships can be amazingly alive, exiting, nurturing, and liberating when these two are present. And they may unfold in quite unconventional ways, and yet in ways that feel deeply right.
Inspiration: Don’t Be Nice, Be Real and also working with Kelly Bryson over the phone.