One set of beliefs are on the theme of I need… before….
I need to be fixed (before life is right, before I can live life fully).
I need my health to be better (before I can enjoy life, before I can move to…, before I can fully commit to….).
I need a resolution (of this problem, before I can relax).
I need more money (so I can be content).
I need a good relationship (so my life is on track).
I need a better situation (before I can have children).
And then the reverse ones:
I can’t move to the Bay Area (until my health is better).
I can’t live fully (until this is resolved).
My life is not on track (until I have a good relationship).
I can’t have children (until the situation is more optimal).
I almost forgot the big ones:
I’ll be happy in heaven.
Life will be right when I am enlightened.
Life will be better when I am in heaven/enlightened.
My problems will be solved when I am in heaven/enlightened.
I cannot be fully satisfied until I am in heaven/enlightened.
I cannot live life fully until I am enlightened.
And what follows:
There is a heaven.
There is enlightenment.
There is an “I” to be enlightened.