What’s imagined beyond inquiry

Sometimes, I notice I imagine what’s beyond a particular inquiry, and the reality is different. I also notice this for others.

A few nights ago, I mentioned “it’s possible to hurt someone” to a new friend as a possible inquiry, and he went to his imagination of what may be on the other side of that inquiry. In this case, lack of care and kindness.

Some statements about him and the situation:

He misunderstood The Work.

He has a hangup (belief, wound) there.

I should have been more clear.

And some beliefs I imagine he may have (which may be good for me to take to inquiry too, since I know these beliefs from here):

The truth is not enough. Or, The Work is not about truth.

Truth/reality is not kind.

Then what I could have shared:

I can find where what he said is true for me. If, instead of inquiry, I go to the reverse belief that “it’s not possible to hurt someone”, one of the consequences may be lack of caring and kindness. And my experience with inquiry is a bit different. Looking into the belief “it’s possible to hurt her/him” may open for compassion and kindness, as does inquiry into the reverse belief “it’s impossible to hurt someone”. Inquiry on whatever beliefs are here for me on that topic, including underlying beliefs, opens for living more freely from the kindness and wisdom that’s here.

Why didn’t I share it there and then? What was I afraid would happen?

He will be hurt. He will misunderstand. I won’t be able to present it with the kindness I wish. He will disconnect. I would sound as a “know it all”. It’s kinder to just listen.

Finally, what’s are some of the things I and others may imagine lies beyond inquiry?

I won’t be able to function. I will be a door mat. I will be heartless. (These may be more common before having much experience with inquiry.)

I will be misunderstood. People won’t understand. I will be alone in my experience of the world. (These feel a bit more current for me.)

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I had a conversation with a (new) friend yesterday who is familiar with meditation and different types of inquiry (although not The Work so much). I happened to mention that the belief “it’s possible for me to hurt someone” can be helpful to look at, and he said “that’s why this world is so messed up” – referring to what he imagined may come out of such an inquiry (heartlessness etc.).

Some statements about him and the situation:

He misunderstood The Work.

He has a hangup (belief, wound) there.

I should have been more clear.

And some beliefs I imagine he may have (which may be good for me to take to inquiry too, since I know these beliefs from here):

The truth is not enough. Or, The Work is not about truth.

Truth/reality is not kind.

And then what I could have shared last night:

For me, one aspect of inquiry is that it seems to help free up the natural kindness and wisdom that’s already here. It’s able to function more free from the temporary boundaries of beliefs and shoulds. In this case, from thoughts such as “It’s possible for me to hurt someone”, “I cannot hurt someone”, “I am responsible for how he/she receives it”, “I am not responsible for how he/she receives it”, and so on. Another aspect if inquiry is that I can find the wisdom and limited validity in each of those statements, and I find my own practical guidance through the turnarounds.

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