Inquiry: People won’t want to hear what I have to say

People won’t want to hear what I have to say. 

(In the turnaround telecourse.)

Is it true?

Yes.

Can you know for certain it’s true?

No.

What happens, how do you react, when you have that belief?

I hold back. Something comes up I could share, and I don’t.

I imagine they won’t want to hear what I have to say.

I tell myself they already know. Or they would like to find it on their own.

I feel some pressure. I think I should share, and should hold back.

I am uncomfortable.

I experience resentment. I sometimes resent people who share freely. I resent not having my experiences shared. I feel ignored.

Who would you be without it?

Free to share when the impulse comes up.

Seeing that how people receive it is their business.

Turnarounds

People will want to hear what I have to say. 

When I posted on the forum, one of the other participants posted a reply thanking me for what I wrote and saying it was very helpful for her.

When I talked with S. recently she seemed to appreciate and want to hear what I said.

C. said she appreciates what I write on this blog.

I won’t want to hear what I say. 

When I have the initial belief, I don’t want to hear what I say. I make myself discouraged.

If what I say comes from thoughts (memory, sometimes a should), it’s a bit dry and boring to me.

I won’t want to hear what they say. 

When I have the initial belief, I am caught up in the push/pull around it (and sometimes resentment), so I am less interested in hearing what others say.

Sometimes, I am drawn to explore something for myself and I am less interested in what others say.

I remember having a belief that “A.G. is saying what she thinks she is supposed to say”, and not wanting to hear what she said.

Additional beliefs

They already know.

They would like to find it on their own.

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