Relax, nothing is under control.
– Adi Da
Some related thoughts to look at:
I can control it. (Something that seems controllable.)
It’s better if I can control it. (Health, money, relationships.)
What I find so far, and it can sink in more fully, is (a) nothing can be controlled, (b) the “I” that appears to control or try to control is not what it initially looks like, (c) realizing this is a huge relief.