I did my second session with Pamela Wilson last night, and again it felt deeply right and very helpful, also as a coaching session.

It was also quite sobering to see all these parts of me that tries their best to protect and support me, and do so using an innocently misguided strategy.

And as each surface, invite it to come closer.

You are welcome here. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for your love.

And for some of them (heaviness, resistance):

I need your strength.

The tendency to not welcome what’s here is also an attempt to protect me, using an innocently misguided strategy. So I can welcome that one too.

You are welcome here. Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for your love.

When these innocent beings – these servants, these parts of me, these deficient selves – are not met in this way, they go off on their own and do their thing. They are like unsupervised employees doing their best, slightly panicked, and not really helping the organization.

As they are welcomed and met with understanding, they can rest. There is a deep relaxation and peace.


Some of the ones that surfaced: Fatigue. Confusion. Feeling overwhelmed. Numbness. Feeling paralyzed. Sleepiness. Distractions. Wanting someone else to save me. Wobbly connection between belly and head.

In the words of Scott Kiloby, these are all deficient selves. And in The Work, it’s what comes out in question three (what happens, how do you react, when you believe that thought?)


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