Most of us are – to varying degrees – addicted to love.
And most of us try to find that love from a partner, family, friends, animals and so on.
The deepest desire for this love addiction is… love, and the best way to give it to this part of ourselves is to meet that part with respect, understanding and love, and meet all the other parts of us in the same way when they come to visit.
A deep desire for all these parts of our experience is to be met with respect, understanding and love, and to be recognized as love – sometimes worried love. Another deep desire for these parts is to recognize themselves not only as love, but also as awakeness itself, and that which allows all of these and also the labels and images of of love and awakeness.
When I hold satsang with parts of my experience, I find that their deepest desire is to align more closely and consciously with reality. Love addiction shows the way to noticing all as already love, meeting it with love, and for it to look even closer and find itself as (what a thought would call) awakeness itself.
“Love is not what you want, it is what you are. It is very important to not get these two confused.
If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching for it all over the place. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal.
Yet you cannot give love in order to get it. Doing that is as much as saying you do not now have it. And that statement will, of course, be your reality. No, you must give love because you have it to give.”
~ Neale Donald Walsch
Yes 🙂 And I like that there are practical step-by-step ways to find that.