It seems helpful to acknowledge the validity of my own stressful stories before questioning them.
That acknowledgment in itself is a relief. And it can include a simple inquiry, to take it one step further.
For instance…..
Even though you have ruined your life, are you still here, breathing?
This is an antidote to the tendency I see in myself to jump into questioning my stressful thoughts, and skipping this first step of acknowledgment. The stressful story does have some validity, and it is a relief to admit it. Also, it does come from love, and it’s helpful to recognize that too. It’s innocent and from confused love. Its intention is to protect, help and support this imagined me.
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Even though you have ruined your life, are you still here, breathing?
Acknowledge + inv to see is ok
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Conventional view as starting point
I notice that it’s helpful to acknowledge the validity of my own stressful stories before questioning them.
That acknowledgment in itself helps take some of the stress out of it.
And it can be included with a simple inquiry.
For instance…..
Even though you have ruined your life, are you still here, breathing?
This is an antidote to the tendency I see in myself to jump into questioning my stressful thoughts, and skipping this first step of acknowledgment. The stressful story does have some validity, and it is a relief to admit it. Also, it does come from love, confused love, and it’s helpful to recognize that too. It’s innocent, and its intention is to protect, help and support.