To be truthful is to be able to look inside and enter the place in yourself where there is intimacy and vulnerability. I will give you an example: A person said they kept yelling at their spouse and then would attack themselves for yelling at their spouse. I asked them a simple question: What is it that you are really experiencing, and would say if you were not afraid to say what is going on for you? This person said: “What I would really like to say to my beloved is: ‘I feel separate and when I feel separate it hurts and I feel grief and I want to connect.'” That can be the opening of a more honest conversation.
– Adyashanti, from the Way of Liberating Insight course
I must admit I cleaned this quote up. Here is the original from Facebook:
To be truthful is to be able to look inside and enter the place in yourself where there is intimacy and vulnerability. I will give you an example, a person said they kept yelling at their spouse and then would attack themselves for often yelling at their spouse. I asked them a simple question: What is it that you are really experiencing if you were not afraid to say what is going on for you? This person said what I would really like to say to my beloved is: “I feel separate and when I feel separate it hurts and I feel grief and I want to connect.” That can be the opening of a conversation, which is honesty.
– Adyashanti, from the Way of Liberating Insight course