Adyashanti: I’ll put all my fantasies of a better life into my concept of enlightenment

It was a phone interview which was really nice because I get to sit around in my socks and stuff. [Laughs.] ‘What do you think,’ said this wonderful person interviewing me, ‘what do you think about soul mates?’ Then I tend to surprise people because I said, ‘you know, I don’t.’ ‘What’s that,’ I asked, eager to find out. ‘What is it, I don’t know, I thought you might know.’ ‘I have no idea what a soul mate is, such an idea never occurred to me.’ I mean I hear the phrase all over the place, but – Seems like another drug to me. It’s like the last bastion, right? ‘No other relationship has worked, but I’ll hold out for the final fantasy. It will be called the soul mate. It’s where I’ll stuff all my fantasies and wait for it to come.’

It’s like enlightenment, you know. ‘I’ll put all my fantasies of a better life into my concept of enlightenment, then I’ll wait for it to happen. And when it doesn’t, I’ll be really disappointed.’ [Laughs.]

– Adyashanti, Leaping Beyond All Fear, October 21, 2006, Oakland, CA.

I like how he likens those ideas – of a soul mate, enlightenment, and whatever else we put our hopes into – to a drug or a final fantasy.

It does become a drug when we invest truth and energy into it. It becomes something we crave and hold onto as a relief for our discomfort, unease, or sense of lack.

And it is, in a way, a final fantasy, a fantasy about something that will finally and perhaps forever give us what we wish for. Something we imagine exists and is not here. Or perhaps we imagine is here, and then are afraid to lose.

2 thoughts to “Adyashanti: I’ll put all my fantasies of a better life into my concept of enlightenment”

  1. Reality is dissapearing. Adya please help. This is all an illusion. I can’t believe what I’m seeing. This is a video game. A cruel joke. Meaningless meaningless meaningless. I know nothing. I have no free will. I see only my own processes. The air is crushing my body. Please help me come back. Please I beg you. There’s nowhere left to run. Nothing is eating me. Mind is eating itself

  2. You can contact Adyashanti with your questions through his website. (He may answer on Radio Adyashanti.) If you are able to attend an event with him, you can also ask then. Or you can contact one of his students, for instance, Bonnie Greenwell.

    What you are describing seems to be a common phase in the awakening process. If it involves suffering, it’s often because of our resistance to the process (we get caught in fear). That’s also quite common. Here are some things that may help: Talk with a teacher who is very familiar with the territory. Receive acupuncture to balance the energies. Spend time in nature. Eat well (healthy foods). Try to not get caught in thoughts too much. (Easier said than done when it’s intense.)

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