One of the “open secrets” of our lives is that we really don’t know what’s going on.
We may have all sorts of experiences, insights, thoughts, and maps, but we don’t really know.
Since this is a secret of sorts, and many adults don’t admit to or don’t speak openly about it, it easy for us as kids to think that adults must know.
I don’t know and (I assume) they do.
And when we still don’t know as adults, some of us keep that belief.
I don’t know and someone else must.
Of course, this may be true in a limited sense. Some will have more experience and insights into certain areas of life than I do, and I can learn from those people. But it’s not true in any final sense.
We are all just winging it.