In healing work, there is a balance between (a) noticing we are that, (b) exploring our relationships with it, and (c) healing it. Whatever “it” is. Whether it’s an emotional issue, physical issue, or situation.
Of course, for some (a) is not so relevant. It’s not where they are at. But for all of us, it’s helpful to explore our relationship to “it” as well as inviting in healing for it.
Here are a few words about each.
(a) Notice we are that. For those interested, any apparently troublesome issue is an invitation for us to notice we are that. It’s “me over there”. Healing our relationship to it is a good start. That, in itself, softens the mind-created boundary. And other forms of inquiry can help us see it more clearly, for instance the Big Mind process, Headless experiments, or The Work or Living Inquiries.
(b) Our relationship to it. If I want something to change, it’s helpful to explore where that comes from. Often, it’s fear and a sense of lack. And, really, that this fear and sense of lack is unloved. So we can explore this in inquiry, and also change our relationship to it, befriend it, find genuine love for it. We can heal our relationship to the troublesome issue. A great deal of distress is created from seeing something as an enemy and something to struggle with. So when we find more peace with it, there is often a relaxation and sense of liberation.
(c) Inviting in healing for it. This is an healing of the issue itself, and in this framework it happens within the context of (b) and (a). It can happen within noticing it’s “me over there”. It can happen within a context of befriending it and what it brings up in me. And the healing of the issue itself can happen through any number of ordinary healing practices, including medicine and psychotherapy.
It’s natural for us to want certain things to go away. We may focus on making it go away and forget about (a) and (b). There is nothing wrong in that. It’s natural and understandable, and for most people, it may even be appropriate.
But if we wish to have a more conscious and intentional relationship to life, and we wish for a deeper healing and awakening, we can’t really avoid (a) and (b). They need to be included.
There needs to be some attention on each so that (b) and (a) becomes the context for (c). A more friendly relationship to the issue, and perhaps noticing it as “me over there”, becomes a context for inviting in healing of the issue itself.
That’s how we invite in deeper healing and awakening. That’s how we align ourselves more consciously with life as it already is.
It’s all already happening within and as Spirit and life. An adverserial relationship doesn’t have real substance to it, and doesn’t make sense in that context. And inviting in healing of issues and situations comes from kindness. It’s what naturally happens when it’s all recognized as Spirit and life.
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Initial notes……
- Using practices to get rid of things
- can get into the mode of getting rid of
- but doesn’t really work
- separation, struggle, pretend we are not that too, comes from misperception so only works to some extent
- so instead, present with + healing/awakening explorations
- notice we are it and everything in our experience
- allow, change our relationship to it, befriend
- both
- allow / present with + invite healing as kindness
- context of allowing, content of (skillfully) inviting healing
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- can get into the mode of getting rid of
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p: yes… a couple of weeks ago i realized i had been using vortex healing to get rid of things, instead of (also) being present with the experience of it
p: it actually created a backlash, and another healer helped me see what was going on
I discovered recently I have used Vortex Healing to get rid of issues, and – fortunately – life wouldn’t let me. Whenever I tried using VH that way, it wouldn’t work and there would be an energetic backlash.