Wishing others well is an important part of healing, maturing, awakening, and embodiment.
As with many of these practices, it’s easy to do towards those we really like, a little more intention may be required for those we are neutral towards, and some work may be required to find genuine well-wishing for those we don’t really like or those who trigger envy, regret, or a sense of not being good enough in ourselves.
When I intend to wish someone well, I get to notice if something in me reacts and doesn’t really want to wish that person well. And that is helpful information. That’s something I can explore through inquiry, healing approaches, or heart-centered practices (e.g. ho’oponopono, metta, or tonglen towards the other and the reactive parts in myself).
And when I can find a genuine and heartfelt well-wishing for the person, I may notice it’s more comfortable and enjoyable. I may notice that a more genuine well-wishing for others comes with a more wholehearted and genuine well-wishing for myself. And I may notice the difference between mentally struggling with the world I am living in, and more genuinely befriending it.
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Initial notes….
- wishing others well
- intention to, so notice when don’t, when it’s difficult
- inquiry, find healing etc.
- wishing others well
- much more comfortable, enjoyable, befriending the world we live in
- wishing oneself (all parts of oneself) well
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- intention to, so notice when don’t, when it’s difficult