Allowing a situation to transform me

When faced with a challenging situation, my first impulse is often to change the situation. Most of the time, that’s what makes most sense and it’s generally a good way of going about it.

And yet, sometimes, I encounter a situation that doesn’t change, or that challenges me more deeply. What makes more sense then is to ask how I can allow the situation to transform me.

To help me reorient, I may pray for receptivity, clarity, and an open heart. I pray for clarification, maturing, and finding love for what is. I pray for being more consciously aligned with reality, truth, and love.

These are wishes and prayers for myself independent of any situation. And a challenging situation reminds me and may allow me to find more sincerity in the prayers.

In addition to these prayers, I can find more specific ways to allow the situation to transform me.

And for me, this often includes….

Being honest with myself and others in the situation. As Adya says, this honesty often takes the form of a confession. It can be a confession of deep fears in me, and thoughts and wishes I feel embarrassed or shy speaking out loud.

Inquiry where I allow the situation to help me see through my initial beliefs and find what’s true for me. I am willing to allow the situation to strip me of my old beliefs and identifications.

Heart-centered practices where I allow my old orientation (of complaining, blame, see myself as a victim) to make way for befriending the situation and what it brings up in me.

Energy healing where I invite in healing for emotional issues and identifications triggered by the situation.

And perhaps noticing all as what I am, for instance through the Big Mind process or headless experiments.

What’s the outcome of any transformation that may take place? We can’t know in advance, and it’s an ongoing process. At the same time, I have hinted at some in the list above.

We may find more honesty (and real kindness) in how we relate to ourselves and others. We may befriend the situation and what it brings up in us, and more. We may find what’s more true for us than our initial stressful beliefs. We may find healing for emotional issues triggered by the situation. We may mature as a human being. We may live with a little more kindness towards ourselves and others. We may find a little more capacity for allowing discomfort, and a little more resilience in life. We may notice what we are (that which any experience happens within and as) and perhaps become more familiar with it and even find that the center of what we take ourselves to be shifts more into it.

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Initial notes….

• Allowing a situation to transform me
  • pray for a situation to transform me
    • pray for receptivity, clarity, open heart
    • for clarification, maturing, find love for what is
    • for being more consciously aligned with reality, truth, love
  • a change in orientation
  • to go along with anything else we do, any activity, practice
  • requires receptivity
    • and the way we are transformed may be…
    • more open heart, understanding, compassion, love for all
    • more clarity
    • release from beliefs, identifications
    • more yin or yang in our way of being in the world
  • ….

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Initial draft….

What happens when we pray for a situation to transform us?

Here is a current example from my own life.

I have lasting fatigue (CFS) and I sometimes pray for the situation to transform me. I pray for receptivity, clarity, and an open heart. I pray for clarification, maturing, and finding love for what is. I pray for being more consciously aligned with reality, truth, and love.

These are general wishes for myself, independent of any situation, but I also find that the CFS allows me to find more sincerity in these prayers.

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Draft….

When faced with a challenging situation, our first impulse may be to change the situation. That makes sense and is often a very sane way of going about it.

And sometimes, we encounter a situation that doesn’t change, or that challenges us more deeply. And then we may find ourselves asking how we can allow the situation to transform us.

In general, I may pray for receptivity, clarity, and an open heart. I pray for clarification, maturing, and finding love for what is. I pray for being more consciously aligned with reality, truth, and love.

These are general wishes for myself, independent of any situation.

And sometimes, a situation may come up that challenges me more deeply. In my case, one of these situations is a lasting fatigue (CFS).

This situation reminds me of these prayers for myself, and it helps me find more sincerity in the prayers.

In addition to these prayers, which helps me reorient, I can find more specific ways I can allow the situation to transform me.

For me, these often include…. Inquiry where I allow the situation to help me see through my initial beliefs and find what’s true for me. I am willing to allow the situation to strip me of my old beliefs and identifications. Heart-centered practices where I allow my old orientation (of complaining, blame, see myself as a victim) to make way for befriending the situation and what it brings up in me. Energy healing where I invite in healing for emotional issues and identifications triggered by the situation. And perhaps noticing all as what I am, for instance through the Big Mind process or headless experiments.

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Often, we want to change a situation, and that makes sense and can be a very sane way of going about it. And yet, sometimes, we encounter a situation that doesn’t change, or that challenges us more deeply. And then, we can ask how we can allow the situation to transform us.