To take full responsibility for your life (which is not judging yourself) is actually
a key to being free, because it means that no one, and no past experience, can control or determine your current state of being. The keys to your life, and your freedom, are in your hands.– Adyashanti, from Fierce Love
How can we do this?
A good start is to take responsibility for how I relate to this situation — to myself, others, what’s coming up in me, the situation I find myself in, life.
I cannot blame anything or anyone for how I relate to whatever is here.
I can ask myself: Do I take responsibility for how I relate to this situation? If not, how would it be to take responsibility for it?
And what in me urges me to blame someone or something else? What’s the belief? Identity? Emotional issue?
In this situation, what does it give me? What happens when I do it? How would it be to take responsibility for how I relate to it?
Going one step further, I can see that I am always my own final authority. Even if I tell myself I am not, I am still my own final authority. I cannot blame anyone or anything on my choices.
When I blame someone or something else, I give away my power. I overlook what I have control over and what’s my responsibility. I miss out on the life I can have when I take responsibility for how I relate to what’s here, and for my own choices now and in the past.