Notice the moment when love is exchanged for chaos in your world.– Byron Katie
When love is exchanged for chaos in my world, it’s from getting caught up in reactivity. I operate on old unquestioned beliefs and assumptions. And when I notice that, I have several choices.
I can keep creating chaos for myself, which sometimes happens and there is something to learn there. If nothing else, I learn it’s exhausting, uncomfortable, and doesn’t get me anywhere.
I can also take a step back. I can notice what’s happening. Disengage from the impulse to react, to the extent I am able. And I can also use any number of approaches to shift how I relate to the situation and explore what’s happening.
The different practices I write about here, including The Work of Byron Katie, can all be very helpful here.
These days, I am mostly exploring becoming more intimate with the contraction I am caught up in a struggle with, as I have described in recent posts.
And right now, I am mostly exploring becoming intimate with the contraction I am caught up in a struggle with. Where do I feel it in my body? What happens when I… Welcome it? Allow it? Thank it for protecting me? Thank it for its love for me? Notice its needs and wants, and the lack it is coming from? Find the basic need it’s coming from (love, safety, seen, respected, etc.)? Give it what it needs and wants? Notice its nature and that it has the same nature as the field it’s happening within and as? Invite it to notice its nature and rest in and as that noticing?