Be OK with not being OK – an AI-generated article

As many others, I am fascinated by AI-generated images and text these days. (There has been a huge improvement in the publicly accessible AIs over the last months.)

What if I ask ChatGPT to write an article for me?

As so often, the result is surprisingly good although a bit conventional.

The two following sections are ChatGTP’s brief article on the benefits of being OK with not being OK, and some practical pointers on how we can move in that direction. I’ll follow it with my own reflections.


Being okay with not being okay can have several benefits. Some of these include:

  1. Increased self-awareness: By accepting that it’s normal to have negative emotions and that it’s okay to not be okay, you can become more aware of your own emotional states and how they affect you.
  2. Reduced stress: Trying to suppress or ignore negative emotions can lead to increased stress and anxiety. By accepting that it’s okay to feel negative emotions, you can reduce the stress of trying to hide or deny them.
  3. Improved mental health: When you’re able to accept that it’s okay to not be okay, you can start to work through your negative emotions in a healthy way. This can lead to improved mental health and overall well-being.
  4. Increased empathy: When you’re okay with not being okay, you can be more empathetic towards others. By recognizing that everyone goes through difficult times, you can have more compassion for others and be a better friend and support for them.
  5. Improved relationships: When you’re okay with not being okay, you can be more vulnerable and authentic with others. This can lead to deeper and more meaningful connections with others.
  6. Greater self-compassion: When you’re okay with not being okay, you can be more compassionate and understanding towards yourself. This can lead to greater self-esteem and overall well-being.
  7. Better problem-solving ability: When you’re okay with not being okay, you can be more realistic and objective about your problems and find effective solutions to them.


  1. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness can help you become more aware of your thoughts and emotions in the present moment. This can help you accept and acknowledge your negative emotions, rather than trying to suppress them.
  2. Allow yourself to feel your emotions: Instead of trying to push away negative emotions, try to allow yourself to feel them. This doesn’t mean dwelling on them, but rather acknowledging their presence and allowing them to pass through you.
  3. Practice self-compassion: Be kind and understanding towards yourself when you’re not feeling okay. Remind yourself that everyone goes through difficult times, and it’s normal to have negative emotions.
  4. Talk to someone: Sometimes, talking to a friend or therapist can help you process and understand your emotions better. This can help you to understand that you’re not alone in your feelings and can help you to find ways to cope with them.
  5. Practice gratitude: Focusing on the things you are grateful for can help shift your focus away from negative emotions and towards positive thoughts.
  6. Engage in self-care: Taking care of yourself through activities such as exercise, yoga, meditation, or journaling can help you feel more grounded and centered, making it easier to process and accept negative emotions.
  7. Learn to let go: Sometimes, it’s not possible to change the situation that’s causing negative emotions. In this case, it’s important to learn to let go and accept that you can’t control everything.
  8. Find a healthy outlet: Finding a healthy way to express negative emotions, such as through writing, art, or exercise, can be a helpful tool to process and understand them.

Remember that it’s a process, it’s not something that you can achieve overnight. Be patient and compassionate with yourself and keep trying different things until you find something that works for you.


As I mentioned, I find these brief articles surprisingly good. These are pointers I find helpful for myself and would be happy to share with a friend or client.

Why are they so good? Because the AI has learned from the best produced by humans.

Why are they a bit conventional? For the same reason. They take the best of what’s out there in the mainstream.

Will AI replace humans? Not really. Humans still need to interact with the AI, craft good questions and input, and edit and quality-control the output. Also, the AI is fed by human creations. It’s dependent on the insights, experiences, and creations of humans.

Will AI essays be a problem in our educational system? (After all, students can create completely original and relatively high-quality works using AI.) Not necessarily, and if it’s a problem, that may be good. Supporting students by grading them – in this case based on essays – was always a poor way to do it. The existence of AI text-generators just requires teachers to be a bit more innovative. They can, for instance, ask students to first produce the best possible AI-generated text on a topic and then critique and evaluate it.


This is one of the timeless and universal pointers.

Being not OK is not inherently a problem. It’s part of being human. There is always new challenges. Unexpected and difficult things happen. Emotions come up. Old emotional issues are triggered. We experience unease and discomfort. Our body does weird things.


If I struggle with it, I add to the discomfort. In reality, most – or all? – of the discomfort comes from my struggle with what is.

And if I find genuine peace with it, it’s different. I am more relaxed. I can find more contentment, even if the midst of what my personality may find challenging. I am better able to intentionally relate to what comes up. I am better able to find practical solutions to life challenges and situations. My mind is more open, curious, and receptive.


So how do I find peace with what is?

One answer is to find what I more fundamentally am. I find I more fundamentally am what all my experiences happen within and as, including the struggling parts of me. Here, there is more space to relate to these parts of me more intentionally.

The other is to identify and explore what in me is not in peace with what is. It’s not all of me that’s not at peace with what is, it’s parts of me. (Although it can certainly seem as if all of me is struggling when I get caught up in and identify with these struggling parts of me.)

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