Yes, this is true enough. I love it more than anything when I am met in this way.
What happens when I am met in this way? Someone else is modeling this way of meeting me, which allows me to meet myself in that way. I give myself permission. I feel more safe. I am reminded of this possibility. I see how it can be done. And I naturally do it for myself.
I can learn to do it for myself in more and more situations. I can be my own support. I can remind myself. I can make it into a new habit.
The more I create this habit for myself, the more I can do it for others. And they can learn to do it for themselves.
If someone else does it for me, that’s icing on the cake. It’s not something I can expect from someone else, although I can let them know how much I enjoy and appreciate it.
And this all reflects our culture, of course. We live in a culture where some of us don’t learn this growing up. We don’t learn to do it consistently and in the most difficult situations in life. If we did, it would just be normal and expected, and not something we actively seek or need to learn.
INITIAL OUTLINE
- holding space
- yes, fits my experience
- and also know that it’s something I need to do for myself, cannot rely on others to do it for me
- what’s actually happening is that others do it and I then allow me to do it
- so can cut go directly to doing it for myself
- …
Yes, this is true enough. I love it more than anything when I am met in this way.
And this is also something I need to do for myself. That’s where it needs to happen. And if others do it as well, that’s icing on the cake.