What we are seems weird only because of expectations, our habit of taking ourselves to be a human being, an object in the world with identities and roles.

From within awakening, it looks different. Here, what is weird is that we (temporarily) take ourselves to be just that, and can stand to live with all that comes with it. (Reactivity, isolation, a closed view and heart, a lack of trust in existence.)

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Expectations = plan

M: … but in reality if he went out and used again, it could be tough for me.

Byron Katie: Oh, there’s a plan. “I think I will plan that.” [M laughs.] If you want to know your plan, look at your mind. It will show you. “That will be tough.” There’s a plan.

On my way through PDX to San Francisco, I read short sections of Who Would You Be Without Your Story and then stayed with it for a while, letting it work on me.

The quote above especially made an impression on me, maybe because it is something I have explored on my own lately.

When I have an expectation, I have a plan. I have a plan for how it will turn out, and I may either interpret what happens so it fits my expectation, or act so it is more likely to happen – to the extent it can at least.

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