Befriending neediness

I notice neediness – or what a thought label neediness – as a hollow tube down the chest and into the belly.

You are welcome here. I stay with it for a while. I notice it has been resisted for a long time. It feels hurt.

How would you like me to be with you? (Love, patience, connection.)

What are you really?

I notice the resistance to the neediness. You are welcome here.

Thank you for protecting me. Thank you for your devotion. Thank you for your love.

How would you like me to be with you? (Respect, understanding, empathy.)

A question for hungry ghosts

When hungry ghosts come up, here is one question I can ask it:

What would satisfy you forever?

No words are needed. What comes up is felt, silently.

Said another way, the answer presents itself and there is no need to put it into words. It’s felt, in silence.

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A bubble of neediness

Monday night, a bubble of neediness surfaced. It was surprisingly big, and it was released or dislodged by two specific situations.

Life always invites us to look at neediness. And in this period of my life, it seems that the invitation is especially clear.

When neediness was triggered this Monday, I related to it in several ways.

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Creating a problem, selling the solution

It is one of the oldest tricks in the book: Create a problem, then sell the solution.

Or more often, create the appearance of a problem.

Christianity creates the problem of sin, and offer the solution of salvation.

Buddhism creates the problem of delusion, and offer the solution of awakening. (Of course, you can also say that the suffering is real, and awakening is one solution – but it is not by any means the only practical solution.)

The fashion and body industry creates an impossible ideal, and offers makeup, jewelry, clothes and dieting and exercise programs as the solution.

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