I find it very helpful to explore my needs.
First, what are my surface needs?
Can I find what is behind these, my more basic and essential needs? As I explore this, I find that my most basic needs are very simple, innocent and universal. I also find that my surface “needs” often are strategies to meet my more essential needs. (I may feel I need a particular connection with a particular person, but that is really a strategy to meet a more essential needs for connection.)
How can I go about meeting my most essential needs in my daily life? And can I find where they are already met?
Then, what appears as my most real and unquesitonable needs? Food? Water? Shelter? Health? Connection with myself and others? Life?
Are these really needs?