One of the things our culture can teach us is that taking care of things and drama goes together. If it is a difficult situation, drama will help me get things done.
If I don’t recognize that expectation, I may take it for granted and live it out without noticing.
But if I take a closer look at it, I see that there is no inherent connection between taking care of things and drama. On the contrary, drama often comes with confusion and distractions. When it is not there, I can take care of things from more clarity and with more ease.
And as I live this more often and in more areas of life, the initial expectation erodes.
It can become very clear. Taking care of things can happen without drama.
Our culture sometimes teaches us that taking care of things and drama goes together. If it is a difficult situation, drama will help us get things done.
When we don’t notice that it is a belief, it is easy to get caught up in it. Difficult situation = drama, and then I can get things done.
But when it is seen as a belief, and a connection between two things that don’t need to be connected, there is some freedom there.
A freedom to let the drama go, and get things done anyway. Usually with more ease and better than with the drama, which comes with confusion and distractions.
Learning to take care of things without the drama is a part of both growing and waking up. We notice drama is not needed. It doesn’t help.
Drama comes up. We notice. See that we don’t need to fuel the stories that fuel the drama. And act more from clarity and stories that are more practical and functional in the situation.
And as we live this more often and in more situations in life, the connection weakens and falls away.
- taking care of things w/out the drama
- part of growing + waking up
- learn that the two are separate, don’t need to go together
- can take care of things w/out the drama, often better – with more clarity – than with drama
- (culture, sometimes teaches us otherwise, but only a learned association)