Assuming something is healed

I sometimes hear someone say that they healed this or that.

The question that comes up for me is: how do you know?

ASSUMING SOMETHING IS HEALED

Why would we assume something in us is healed?

It may just be a way to say it, and we know we don’t really know. We don’t nuance it because we know we and others know we can’t know.

It may feel more comforting to tell ourselves something is healed. We may feel we need that comfort.

We may not have enough experience to see how something may appear healed, and then it surfaces again – often in a slightly different form since a lot has changed in us between then and now.

UPSIDES AND DOWNSIDES OF THAT ASSUMPTION

There is an upside to telling ourselves something is healed. It may give us an extra boost and encouragement to keep going. It can give us the confidence we need in that situation.

The downside is that we tell ourselves something we cannot know for certain, and a part of us knows that. It may also make it extra challenging if or when an issue resurfaces, in a way it wouldn’t have been if we held it more as a question.

A RICHER VIEW

In my experience, there are typically layers to a wound, issue, or trauma. It has aspects and wrinkles that we discover over time.

What’s wounded is a part of me. Sometimes, a particular wounded part goes into the background for a while, and other parts – free of the issue – come more into the foreground.

It may be that one aspect of an issue is healed. And there are underlying issues and painful beliefs yet to be explored.

Any issue typically exists within a network of issues. To find a more real healing, we need to explore the network.

HOLDING IT MORE LIGHTLY

I prefer to keep it as a question.

It may appear that an issue is healed. It may be tempting to tell myself it’s healed. But I cannot know for certain.

To me, it’s more honest and comfortable to hold it more lightly. I may notice that a particular issue may not come up as often as before, or it may appear less strong than before. And I don’t really know what’s going on. I cannot know if it’s healed or not, or to what extent it’s healed.

All of that is hidden from me, and that’s fine. I don’t need to know. If it comes up, I’ll explore it. If it doesn’t, that’s fine too.

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SECOND DRAFT

I sometimes hear someone say that they healed this or that.

Personally, I wouldn’t say it that way. I would perhaps say that it seems healed, but I would keep it as a question.

In my experience, there are typically more layers. There are more fundamental and essential issues. There are networks of issues and one issue is tied into a lot more.

Sometimes, a part of me that has an issue seems to go into the background while other parts of me free of the issue seem to come into the foreground. That doesn’t mean the issue is healed.

It may appear that an issue is healed. It may be tempting to tell myself it’s healed. But I cannot know for certain.

To me, it’s more honest and comfortable to hold it all more lightly. I may notice that a particular issue may not be up as much as before, or it may appear less strong than before. And I don’t really know what’s going on. I cannot know if it’s healed or not, or to what extent it’s healed.

All of that is hidden from me, and that’s fine. I don’t need to know. If it comes up, I’ll explore it. If it doesn’t, that’s fine too.

(1) This seems to happen more when we are relatively early on a healing or awakening path. (Perhaps the first ten or fifteen years?) It may feel more comforting to tell ourselves that something is healed, and it may seem bothersome, irrelevant, or annoying to phrase it more carefully. We may not have enough experience to see how something may appear healed, and then it surfaces again – often in a slightly different form since a lot has changed in us between then and now. There is an upside to it as well. It may give people an extra boost and encouragement to keep going. The downside is that it may be extra challenging if or when an issue resurfaces, even if it’s in a slightly different way.

INITIAL DRAFT

ASSUMPTIONS THAT SOMETHING IS HEALED

I sometimes hear someone say that they healed this or that1.

Personally, I wouldn’t say it that way. I would perhaps say that it seems healed, but I would keep it as a question.

In my experience, there are typically more layers. There are more fundamental and essential issues. There are networks of issues and one issue is tied into a lot more.

Sometimes, a part of me that has an issue seems to go into the background while other parts of me free of the issue seem to come into the foreground. That doesn’t mean the issue is healed.

If I am honest with myself, I cannot know if an issue is healed or not. It may appear that way. It may be tempting to tell myself it’s healed. But I cannot know for certain.

To me, it’s more comfortable to hold it all more lightly. I am happy to invite in healing in different ways. I am happy to notice that a particular issue may not be up as much as before, or appear as strong as before. And I don’t really know what’s going on. I cannot know if it’s healed or not, or to what extent it’s healed. All of that is outside of what I have a direct view into.

It’s hidden from me, and that’s fine. I don’t need to know. If it comes up, I’ll explore it. If it doesn’t, that’s fine too.

(1) This seems to happen more when we are relatively early on a healing or awakening path. (The first ten or fifteen years?) It may feel more comforting to tell ourselves that something is healed, and it seems bothersome, irrelevant or annoying to phrase it more carefully. We may not have enough experience to see how something may appear healed, and then it surfaces again – often in a slightly different form since a lot has changed in us between then and now and we are in a different situation.

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